Restaurants and Wheelchairs

It is difficult to take someone to dinner who is in a wheelchair. You feel awkward walking in and asking if you can have a table, whilst many place have this huge step which is impossible to get to the wheelchair up and over. Friday night’s are the worst, when it is busy. I am really coming to learn that those in wheelchairs, unintentionally, are treated as second class citizens. Whereas there is lots of focus on things like climate change and sustainability in the city i.e. which are considered in vogue.

In the end we sat out on the terrace, on the Witte de Wittestraat, drinking some wine and eating pizza. Ironically, we did nothing to help the climate change cause, taking advantage of an outdoor heater. Grace was cozy wit her coat turned around as a blanket.

I enjoyed just being with Grace. She was tired and I doubt the wine helped, but she was relaxed.

Time for the Sunbed again

I am looking a bit parched in the face. I need to start doing the sunbed again, on a regular basis.

Late in the day I went for a hot stone massage. It was needed, completely relaxing me. Something I have not done for a while. The lady commented how stiff I was all over. I need to sort this out. This requires exercise and, really, a personal trainer. I have reached out to some.

I get it with Lionella now

You torture yourself because you think you were to blame for things going wrong and then you realise it was not all you. Lionella had a lot of things going for in terms of physical looks and her intellect. But she is troubled and I suppose that is reflected in the life events she has experienced. 

I think I have also underestimated that the depth of Grace, with respect to the things we used to talk about (her intellect) and the role she played in her partnership. Grace did not achieve lots of things, in terms of education and career, because it was not important to her (values) rather than she was not capable. 

I have been with Grace for 27 years and that speaks volumes.   

Time for myself

I’m finally feeling like I have bandwidth to do other things.  Focus on my Spanish, my third book and to read more self growth material. The Playstation is hardly being used at the moment, feels like it was a bit of a waste of money.

I am looking forward to next week, as I have a few surprises up my sleeve. There should be some fun for me and others.